Before marriage....
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: No! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course! Over and over!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: No! Why are you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Every chance I get.
She: Will you hit me?
He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.
She: Darling!
After marriage....
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Winner of YouTube 2007 Video Awards - First place in Adorable
Ah, finally .... my dream comes true!
He's coming to Malaysia! My long time heartthrob 
Finally I'll get to 'meet' him in person! 
Kenny G is coming to town!
He'll be performing at Arena of Stars, Genting Hingland on 26th April 2008!
And I have bought the ticket!
Any of you a fan of Kenny G? Care to join me? 
Here's Kenny G playing "Song bird" - one of his earliest and hits song that was composed for his girlfriend who is now his wife.
Grow Old along with Me
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Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be,
The last of life, for which the first was made:
Our times are in His hand
Who saith "A whole I planned,
Youth shows but half;
trust God: see all, nor be afraid!"
-- robert browning
[flower: pulsatilla vulgaris or Pasqueflower]
It's Saturday again! Who doesn't love Saturday, right? 
My Saturday started with surprises found on my balcony:
-- the yellow rose smiling, and it has lovely fragrance too!
-- the red rose doesn't want to be left behind ....
At around 9 am, I left home for my monthly facial and I grabbed caramel machiato and a bite of tuna sandwiches along the way!
The session is scheduled at 10 am . Before it begun, the beautician have a chat with me - to identify my skin condition and what will be the suitable facial for me today. That's one of the things I like about this salon - they don't simply do facial - they will ask about my concern, e.g whether my face is too oily/too dry this month, or whether I've been having more pimples or if I planned to go to the beach they will avoid certain types of facial etc.
A basic facial session started with 2-3 minutes scalp massage, then only the facial begin. After the first mask was applied on the face, another 5-10 minutes scalp massage is given. Then continue with facial - cold steam, followed by face and eyes massage. The second mask is then applied and this is followed by a neck and shoulder massage - about 5-10 minutes - while waiting for the mask to dry. Then followed by the last step of facial. With a soft music on the background (today they played the sound of waves and seagull) and the smell of aromatherapy oil in the room, most of the time I'll fall asleep 
So, that's my little escapism from the 'real world' - once a month (if I am too busy it will be once every 2 months)!
After facial, it's another routine - browsing at Borders! Today I bought 3 books - 1. Just aromatherapy 2. Malaysia Road Atlas 3. The Rough Guide to Spain .
When I got home, the yellow rose seems fully open now
and a closer look ....
That's my Saturday so far! How's yours?
I'll have to continue with my packing shortly - anybody would like to help? 
Love - Larra
Who said you need reasons to buy yourself anything - especially after hard week at work? 
I went to the perfume section at the nearby Mall during lunch break - I always feel relax and 'happy' whenever there's a smell of perfume! Sometimes I just passed by the area without stopping at any perfume counters. But today I stopped at Guerlain counter - which is promoting its new released perfume "My Insolence".
I like the smell:
Top notes: Raspberry
Middle notes: Almond blossom, Jasmine
Base notes: Patchouli, Vanilla, Tonka Bean
And end up bought the 30ml EDT! That's the start of my weekend! 
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| Any habits that you would like to coax down the stairs? |
"Tea is drunk to forget the din of the world" (T'ien Yiheng)
~ Care to join me?" ~
[The following article taken from China Daily, 3rd March 2007]
Tea drinking is probably one of the easiest and most pleasant ways to keep fit. In fact, drinking tea has been recognised as a great way to combat weight gain.
Scientific research shows that tea contains polyphenol and dannin, which are good for the body. Polyphenol is a natural antioxidant. It can delay the aging process, and help the body prevent harm from cancer-causing substances such as nitrosamine. Dannin can lower blood fat, prevent the hardening of blood vessels, and help maintain smooth blood circulation, therefore keeping cardiovascular functions normal. Polyphenol can also alleviate symptoms of diabetes, lower blood fat and blood pressure.
One of the most popular teas in China, pu'er, has been proven to lower blood fat significantly. A French doctor once did an experiment, in which he had 20 of his patients with excessive blood fat drink three bowls of pu'er a day. A month later, the patient's blood fat reduced by a quarter.
Green tea is said to prevent cancer, which makes it a wonderful drink for modern people, who sit looking at TV and computer screens all the time. Green tea and oolong tea can moisten the intestines and help replenish vitamins. Black tea and pu'er can warm the stomach, dispel cold, and help with digestion of meat.
But people should drink the right tea, at the right time. Otherwise tea drinking could be harmful.
"Everybody can find his own cup of tea, but if it is not the right tea for him or her, there could be side-effects," said Zhao Yingli, a tea expert based in Beijing.
For example, polyphenol and theine, contained in tea, are beneficial to most people, but not to women during menstruation or pregnancy.
The Chinese consider green tea and oolong cold in nature. Therefore green tea is not suitable for people who have an aversion to the cold, or who are weak in the yin factor of the body, a symptom of which is more than average level of perspiration in hot weather, or after physical exercise. Because of that nature, green tea might cause stomach pain for women during menstruation.
Old people should not drink too much strong green tea either. That is because too much strong green tea could lead to the loss of calcium and cause osteoporosis. Elderly people should drink some black tea, pu'er, or teas with milk.
For people who have insomnia, anxiety, and neurasthenic problems, it is not a good idea to drink green tea or oolong after noon, because it might worsen the problems. A cup of pu'er instead would help with your sleep.
Generally speaking, green tea and oolong are good for summer and autumn. Black tea and pu'er are better choices for winter.
Finally, wash your tea, i.e., tip out your first cup of tea water. This helps to clean the tea and the hot water will dissolve any pesticides. Besides, the first cup is usually tasteless and not a pity to discard.
Hi everyone,
My Saturday morning started with quite heavy rain .... which gave me good excuse not to go for morning walk! 
After webcam chat with Herb and rain stopped at around 10.30 am, I went out to the post office to collect books that Herb sent - due to the size of the parcel the postman can't put in the pigeonhole at my apartment.
Then I proceed to the nearby Mall and have brunch - capuccino and boneless chicken ... something (served with french fries and salad) ..... don't remember the name - not so tasty anyway 
. But having brunch was not my main agenda. I need to look for a new headset! Been having problem when chatting with Herbie - I can't hear him loud enough, even though the volume has been set to highest! So, I bought myself new Philips headset - if problem remain, then Herb definitely will need to buy new headset 
Passed by kitchen section and can't avoid browsing ..... and end up buying something which is not a 'must have' but would be nice to have: kitchen roll/towell holder dispenser and pot cover 
One the way out, I dropped by at BodyShop, looking for CocoButter Body Scrub. But unfortunately it has been out of stock for quite sometimes (occording to the salesgirl), so I bought Olive Body Scrub instead, plus the Olive Body Butter.
I also bought the special edition of White Musk EDT which is White Musk Blush EDT - I kind of like its refreshing floral fruity fragrant.
[Sparkling fruity notes and fresh florals combine with velvety musk to create a sensational light-hearted summer fragrance.]
The last item I bought at BodyShop was Grapeseed Glossing Serum for hair - like any other serum, this serum adds gloss and shine to the hair and also helps to mosturize the hair. I never use it before - since my hair grow longer I've been using Loreal Elseve Nutri-Gloss serum. Don't you agree, it is much easier keeping a short hair?
So, that's about it! That's what in my shopping bag today!
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I hope you find it useful. Happy reading!
"Reading is to the mind what excercise is to the body".
Love - Larra
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He's analytical, driven, not very verbal, and not always compassionate.
She's gregarious, intuitive, whimsical, warm, and compassionate.
It's probably a good match, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist from Rutgers University and a leading researcher on love, attraction, and romance. One of her findings: Biology matters, and these two people's biology -- their chemical "profiles" -- may complement each other nicely.
In recent years, Fisher and a host of other researchers have been looking deep into our psyche and brains -- helped by high-tech imaging and genetic analysis. They've come up with some intriguing information about what makes us become attracted to someone, what underlies the crazy-in-love feeling, what's up with the transition from butterflies to a more comfortable relationship, and what keeps us attracted.
"It's all much less of a mystery than it was five years ago and certainly 30 years ago," says Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook and another top researcher in the field. The science of the biology of love is relatively new. Research picked up steam in the 1980s, Aron says, and since then experts have made multiple discoveries. Here's a sampling of their findings:
When it comes to whom you are attracted to, "your biology plays a role,'' says Fisher, who wrote Why We Love and several other books. It's not only a similar socioeconomic status, level of education and family backgrounds that make people attractive to you, she says, but also hormones -- ones that differ from your own.
We're attracted, Fisher says, to those with a chemical "profile" for estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin that's different from our own, yet complements it. For instance, she says, "If you tend to be high estrogen, you will gravitate to the high testosterone type.''
That explains why Mr. Analytical and Driven and Ms. Gregarious and Warm are a match. He's probably a ''high testosterone'' type, Fisher says, and she is probably a "high estrogen" type. "For good Darwinian reasons, they are very complementary," says Fisher. She can likely see many ways of doing things and become indecisive. To the rescue, the analytical man. Likewise, she might inspire more compassion in him. Fisher is working with chemistry.com, an offshoot of match.com, to develop this chemical profile match strategy.
Love involves three basic brain circuits, according to Fisher. There's the sex drive, which motivates us to seek out partners; romantic love, the in-the-clouds feeling when you first fall in love; and the attachment phase, the comfortable-but-fewer-fireworks stage.
"The sex drive is a very simple drive," Fisher says. "It's simply the craving for sexual gratification, driven largely by testosterone in both men and women."
"Of these three systems, in many respects I think the most powerful one is intense romantic love," Fisher says. With Aron and others, Fisher has used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRIs) to examine the brains of people in love and get clues about romantic love.
In one study, 17 people who were newly in love and asked to look at a photo of their beloved showed intense activity in two brain regions associated with reward and motivation -- called the ventral tegmental area and the right caudate nucleus. The findings led Fisher's team to suggest that the crazy-in-love feeling is more a motivation system than an emotion. The report was published in 2005 in The Journal of Comparative Neurology.
"Both the VTA and the caudate nucleus are part of the brain reward system," Fisher says. And the VTA, she says, is a "mother lode" for cells that make dopamine, a brain chemical important for controlling emotional response and the ability to feel pleasure and pain. As dopamine levels in the madly-in-love increase, she says, it accounts for focused attention on the new partner, motivation to get the reward -- and the lover's high.
In this romantic love phase, Fisher says, lovers are motivated to win each other over. Obsessive thinking is part and parcel.
"What we are seeing is activation in the same area as when you expect to receive a large reward," Aron says. It's the same area that "lights up" in cocaine users, he says, as they anticipate using the drug.
"What we think is what's going on when one falls in love is, one perceives incredible opportunities for one's life to be enriched," Aron says. "Perhaps the most important reward for most people is falling in love."
Aside from biology and brain activity, body odor is important and help may dictate who we are attracted to and our romantic behavior. "It may be one of the first things that inspires us to say yes or no," says Charles Wysocki, PhD, a researcher at Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia.
Preference for human body odors is influenced by both gender and sexual orientation, Wysocki and his colleagues found in their research, published in 2005 in Psychological Science. When his study participants of different orientations and genders were asked to choose between distinct odors -- straight men, gay men, straight women, lesbian women -- each picked the odor of a partner of the preferred gender and orientation.
''A person's body odor is determined by a number of factors," Wysocki says," and among them is a set of genes that regulate the immune system." This cluster of genes is called the major histocompatibility complex or MHC. "This MHC confers on an individual an odor print," says Wysocki, citing others' research. And experts have found that a person will seek out a partner with an MHC different than his or her own. "MHC is so variable, no two are alike," Wysocki says.
Once you're initially attracted to someone -- helped along by hormones, odor, or other unconscious factors -- what the other person does or doesn't do counts, too. "You become more attracted to people who are attracted to you," Fisher says.
For instance, one research participant told Aron: "I sort of liked this woman and she came over and sat by me." Things developed.
A woman told Aron she was talking to a friend about her piano instructor and the friend said, "You know he likes you." At that moment, the woman told Aron, she realized she had feelings for him, too.
"When people fall in love, that is the most common scenario," Aron says. "We are looking for the opportunity to love and be loved back."
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After people have been in love a while, the activity in the brain reward areas wanes, Fisher has found in further research. "As the relationship matures, it links in new brain areas associated with emotion," she says. "We aren't exactly sure what is going on, but everyone knows romantic love changes over time."
Still, she says, "chemistry" can persist. "We have started a new study, of those in long-term marriages," she says. Only five people have undergone the fMRI imaging so far, she tells WebMD, but it looks promising for those who yearn for long-term chemistry. "They still show activity in some brain regions associated with romantic love and also with some associated with attachment," Fisher says.
Two other hormones -- oxytocin and vasopressin -- may come into play once you are settling into a more comfortable relationship. At least it's true in small rodents called prairie voles, according to Sue Carter, PhD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago, who has studied the monogamous animals for decades. Both hormones seem important in the animals' attachments to one other vole, she says.
Oxytocin, sometimes called the hormone of love, is plentiful in women in labor and in lactating women and is released by men and women during orgasm. Some human studies have suggested it plays a role in maintaining interpersonal relationships. Vasopressin is released by the pituitary gland.
In voles, at least, Carter says, the hormones seem to play a role in social bonding, and perhaps in reducing fear, making them feel less anxious. So that may play a role in the voles' decision to mate with just one other vole.
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Avoiding boredom is crucial for the health of a relationship, Aron tells WebMD. In a study, he randomly assigned couples to participate in activities both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant or highly pleasant but moderately exciting.
"The group who did highly exciting but only moderately pleasant activities had a much bigger increase in marital satisfaction," he says. The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
Meanwhile, another expert is tracking the long-term effect of picking a partner with a different major histocompatibility complex. Martie Haselton, PhD, a psychologist and researcher at the University of California Los Angeles, is working with the web site eharmony.com to track newlyweds, noting the effect of different MHC patterns between partners.
"There is some evidence that fertility is higher in those with dissimilar MHC genes," says Haselton. And children who inherit different MHC genes from each parent are thought to have broader immunity, she says. She also wants to determine if picking someone with different MHC genes than your own bodes well for the relationship long term.
Women in a relationship with a man with very different MHC genes are more sexually responsive to that partner and less likely to be attracted to other men than are women who pair up with a guy with not-so-different MHC genes, says Haselton, citing a study by other researchers published in 2006 in Psychological Science. How that plays out long term will be Haselton's focus as she follows couples for five years or so.
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So how much of a role does all this chemistry going on in our brains play in all this? "Chemistry isn't quantifiable," Fisher says. In the making of a relationship, she says, several variables come into play -- such as personality, which includes your character and your temperament. "Your character is formed by everything you grew up with," she says. "And your temperament is built by your biology. Together they create who you are."
So it's difficult to put a percent or a number on the role of chemistry in a relationship. And like some of us, it can be fickle. "One moment chemistry rules and the next moment your upbringing will rule," Fisher says. As in: "I'm madly in love with this guy." to "What I am thinking? He's a different religion."
One thing's for sure. There's much more to discover about the biology of love, guaranteeing that relationship scientists will have jobs for years to come.
