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Someone who has put one foot on the Path is a star.
And some one who is advanced is a moon.
And some one who has arrived is a sun.
But the one who has not put
his foot on the path is like a stone.
-- Imam Ghazali
note: stole from my friend, Zhulixin's page 
Life has no meaning any more does it?
The wine has no taste, the food sickens you, there seems no
reason for any of it, does there?
But what if I could give it back to you.
Pluck out the pain, and give you
another life,
one you could never imagine,
and it would be for all time.
And sickness and death could
never touch you again.
Don't be afraid, I'm going to give you the choice, I, never, had.
-- anne rice
wise men say: in time of sickness the soul collects itself anew ....
Coffee anyone? Hmmmmm .... coffee smells like freshly ground heaven!
I am making myself a cup of cappucinno!
..... with caramel of course! 
Or do you prefer your creamy cappuccino with chocolate fudge?
Come, join me before the coffee gets cold. But then, don't laugh at the coffee. Some day you too, may be old and weak. 
I came accross this article while reading the Science Briefing column in Financial Times this morning:
If you feel you have a closer relationship with your granny on your mother's side than on your father's side, it is no surprise to researchers at the universities of Newcastle and Antwerp. Based on studies in the Netherlands, they claim that maternal grandparents are likely to make greater efforts to maintain frequent contact with their grandchildren than paternal grandparents.
They speculate that psychological mechanisms related to human evolution are involved: women, because of maternity, are always sure of their relationship to their sons or daughters, whereas men can never be wholly certain they are their children's biological fathers, they suggest.
Furthermore, maternal grandparents are always more certain than paternal grandparents that a grandchild is related to them: "Thus maternal grandparents, especially maternal grandmothers, may go the extra mile to visit their grandchildren."
The study, carried out by Thomas Pollet and his colleagues found that for grandparents living within 30 kilometres of their grandchildren, more than 30 per cent of maternal grandmothers and 25 per cent of maternal grandfathers had contact daily or a few times a week. In contrast, this fell to 15 per cent for paternal grandparents.
Mr Pollet said: "Even in families where there has been divorce, we found consistent differences. Grandparents on your mother's side make the extra effort."
How true it is in your case? For me, all I can remember is that I (in fact all of my siblings - when we were small) was so scared of my late grand mother.
Few years back, a Johorean friend introduced to me "Asam Tumis" or "Asam Pedas" Johor with pickled cabbage. I used to eat Asam Pedas Johor that is cooked with ladies finger and/or eggplant (aubergine). So, pickled cabbage is something new ... but I fall in love with it ever since. Every now and then whenever I have pickled cabbage, I'll sure cook 'Asam Pedas'.
Today, I explore my Asam Pedas with something else ... gerkhins! I don't know much about gerkhin until last August when I was on the flight to Manchester. During breakfast this 'small cucumber like' thing was served - I didn't ever know it's name! But I enjoyed the taste. So, later I asked Herb .... and that's how I was introduced to gerkhins - when I was at Herb's house, we ate gerkhins almost everyday! 
When I am back in Malaysia I've been trying to look for gerkhins at the nearby hypermarket but couldn't find any until yesterday! So, here I am today cooking 'Asam Pedas' with gerkhins and egg plant!
Life is just a bowl of cherries,
dont take it serious, its mysterious.
Life is just a bowl of cherries,
so live and laugh and laugh at love,
love a laugh, laugh and love.
~ Bob Fosse ~
